Has your faith had
such a workout that you feel you’re fighting for your life?Well, not to put a damper on things friend,
but you are.There is good news though;
someone has made sure you won’t go down for the count.
Lately I have been
receiving messages and counseling a lot on starting over when you’ve been
through something traumatic or life altering.For some of you, so much has happened that you have given up on hope, therefore, your faith has nothing to support it.Like my husband would put it, “your armor can’t take another hit.”
I wish I could say that I haven’t
experienced that kind of feeling, but I can’t.Job changes, losses, health, injuries, death, friendships broken, moving
across country and other things have stolen joy from my life. Just like you, I
could name these instances and gain sympathy from most people, because they have also been
through these tragedies.
Hold on - Help Is on the Way
Over the years I’ve been on a quest in
search for answers on how to press on when nothing made sense or was going
Continuing in my education I had
taken classes, read books, listened to spiritual messages and they have either
led me nowhere or to the same place … God’s Word. There is a ray of hope after all!
After a traumatic brain injury, normal became foreign in our way of living, so I've walked this road in my own life.
I’d like to rekindle the fire of God inside
you and bring back hope into your life, with what I have learned throughout the
years along my journey.
How do you start over when everything is
Is there something to help us
cope with life when there is no spouse or family around, health seems to be in
jeopardy, jobs are scarce and the world seems to be falling apart?
Someone asked me this question, “It
hurts too much and I am so lonely.How
do I laugh and live life again?”Another person said to my husband after a Sunday church service, “I
had nothing to do with my birth, I know how to die, but how do I live?”They weren’t trying to be negative, but were
truly grasping at living a “normal” life as God intended, full of
blessings, joy and favor.
What we need to understand is that through
Christ, we are overcomers. It may not look like it now, but we are. Jesus said
“For whatever is born of God overcomes the world.
And this is the
victory that has overcome the world, our faith. Who is he who
overcomes the world, but he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God?”
The New Normal: A Lesson
Let me explain that what you are
experiencing right now is called a "newnormal."After we have experienced something traumatic
in our lives, we have to learn to live a normal life completely different than
we have in the past.We have to have the
boldness to step out without the help of those we once had.
Is this possible? Yes, but it may be hard
and take some time.If you can hold on
to this phrase, you will survive and come out better than you ever expected ...
“It’s a process.”Meaning, it
won’t happen overnight, but by faith it will come to pass.
For some the problem lies with “self”, that
is, expecting too much too soon.We
become impatient with ourselves or other people become insensitive to our
feelings and situation.There have been
people that have said, “You should be over this by now.”Who says?
Let’s face it, “normal” life in your world
has been snatched away and not everyone will respond the same way as you
do.Don’t let that get you down.“Normal” as it was in the past, is never
going to happen.Coming to grips with
that takes courage given from God and good support groups in a godly
So to answer that lady, “How
do I live this New Normal Life?” here are some things you can do.
Ten Steps to Your
Start slow, you don't have to do them all at once, but at least start.
1)Trust God's methods. Pray and
trust God no matter what.I can tell you
from experience; without that trust, you won’t make it. Don't let fear stop you from making a change. You must have complete trust in the One
that is greater than all circumstances.
2)Take a mental break.
Allow yourself a chance to heal without questioning everything. Enjoy the
little things that come moment by moment as you learn to cast your cares on the
Lord.Remember, you are starting a new
way of living, so you don’t know the ropes yet.
“Cast all your care upon Him,
for He cares for you.”
(1 Peter 5:7 NKJV)
3)Sing, sing, and sing
some more.Music is the most effective
way to stir the heart of man and God.There is no higher adoration to God than praise, and that’s easy when
you sing. I can always tell when my music quota needs to be refilled by the way
I react to things.If you are re-acting
and not acting to daily situations, turn on some Christian music and sing.It will change the way you think and act.
4)Spend time in the Word
other than your daily devotions.Look up
passages in the Bible that specifically talk about what you are
experiencing.If you’re not sure how to
do that, use a Bible concordance to help you. Study, write the verses down and
mediate on them until they become part of your thinking. I have done this; it works!
Doctors told my husband I would never recover, don't believe them. Get angry enough to believe God's Word over all naysayers. This is what I learned:
“If we change the way we think,
we change the
way we live.”
5)Find a Christian support
group geared for that situation. People want to give encouragement, but because
they aren't living your problem daily they forget about what you are battling.
Understand that sharing your feelings and
experiences in a support group is good, but only if it is within a group of
people that have experienced your kind of pain.Just any support group won’t cut it.
6)Give yourself credit
where it is due. You have probably made more headway than you realize.
7)Do something new.To help us regain our joy, my husband and I
purposed in our hearts to do new things.We have tried projects, ideas and activities we never did before, and found new paths in our journey
that were not explored.
This has opened
new doors and friendships into our lives, because we stepped out in faith
letting God lead us to the “greater things” He has promised in His Word.If you allow God to lead you through the
valley you will be refreshed.
environment.This may or may not be a
dramatic change for some, but literally move.A new location won’t remove the pain, but a new environment may
encourage you to step out in faith so God can work on your behalf.Pray and ask God if this is what you should do.
Another change may simply be in the
furniture or colors of a room.It has
been scientifically proven that colors make a difference in the way we think
and operate in life.What the world
doesn’t understand is that colors have an aroma designed by God for our
benefit.We need to use them to
encourage calmness, not rage into our emotions.Remember this sentence, “If you go light (in color selections), you will
This one may be tough, but God could lead you to leave your job (even in this economy), in order to help you
through the healing process.Be open to
the prompting of the Holy Spirit and trust God to give you favor in another
9)Surround yourself with
positive Christian people who make you laugh.Sure you don’t want to talk to strangers or even feel like socializing,
but that’s what you need to do if you can’t find any positivity in your friends.
Don’t discuss issues, but just “be” part of the Body of Christ.Learn to laugh all over again and healing
will come.The Bible says it is like
medicine, so take a good dose of laughter daily.
“A merry heart does good,
but a broken spirit dries the bones.” (Proverbs 17:22 NKJV)
10)Get involved with
something. Dip into your bucket list and go for it. Whether it’s singing in the
choir, Bible study, karate lessons, ceramic classes or a night course ... do
something. Get outside of your home and area. Focusing on a new skill will
take your mind off the situation and help you deal with your emotions when you
are alone.Plus, it will make you
physically tired causing you to sleep when you couldn’t in the past.
Whatever you are
going through, you can’t give up or give in to the feeling of
hopelessness.I’m proud of how far you
have come. You’re going to make it.How
do I know that you will, because Jesus said you ARE an overcomer.You have inside you what it takes to get
through this, no matter what it may be.
Through Jesus, stay
in the fight... the good fight of faith.God said you are not going
under.It’s not hopeless.
The thing is that
we forget the promises of God and that He is holding our hand all the way.
are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you
is greater than he who is in the world.” (1 John 4:8 NKJV)
The Great I AM is
living inside you, so how can you lose?Jesus is the one Who will bring you through.Let Him!
Your job: stay in the fight.
satan knows you’re not going under, but do you?This is your victory … to be an overcomer
like Christ said you were.
Don't give in!
It's not hopeless!
Mandisa - Overcomer (Lyric Video)
Did you listen to the words in that song? The scriptures declare that "You’re an Overcomer" by faith.It is a title given to you by Jesus courtesy of the cross.Child of God, heir, righteous, saint, forgiven, blessed …overcomer. Believe it.
“For whatever is born of God overcomes the world. And this is the victory that has overcome the world – our faith.” (1 John 5:4 NKJV)
You are exactly where you need to be in this process, and are coming to the other side of “normal.” Be patient.
With each new day that God gives you grace and mercy (unmerited favor), find a way to share what you have learned through this.
Take notes so you see how you progressed and before you know it, you will have overcome. You have the promise of Jesus that your tears will be wiped away and turned into gladness.
Everyone has reached a low point somewhere along their life’s journey.You’re not alone.Someone besides Christ knows what you’re feeling.God will use your pain for His glory to help others and draw them to Him.In the process you will be healed and your new “normal” will become a stepping stone to the daily favor of God.
Maybe you don’t know the Living God that
I know, but would like to have this kind of favor in your life also.Click on the above tab “Tell Me” for more
information on becoming a child of the Savior.
*Note: The word "satan" is intentionally in lower case, for we give him no authority.
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Scripture reference was taken from the New King James Bible Version provide by Gateway Bible